Le Mari and I were married in August. We lived together through the engagement only (HUGE ADJUSTMENT) and after the wedding, our relationship has changed little- which is good. I sometimes feel that we get along better now than we did when we were dating. We are both very stubborn and "challenge" each other on a regular basis...
It's assumed that marriage is the next step to the perfect life but in reality, it's not easy. We have been together five years now and he still surprises me. I was good at being single and I found that even though we have been together five years, it is still hard for me to give up aspects of my independence and moving out of my apartment in the City to a house in the suburbs is still difficult. There is a lot of compromise involved. I encourage youngsters (yes, I said youngsters) to do everything they want before they get married because when you do, life really changes. Before, work was my life and I did basically what I wanted when I wanted to do it. Now I focus on Le Mari as much as I can, every decision I make revolves around how it will effect him. I cook, clean (as much as I can without killing myself!) and adjust to life with a "roommate" again. Laundry doubles, dishes double. There is plenty of time for marriage and children, with them come much responsibility. Take your time. If they love you, they will wait for you to do what you need to do whether it be advancement in your career, travel, etc. I waited and have no regrets or feel that there was something I wished I had done or experienced. I can love Le Mari without the resentment that I see forming in so many middle aged women who were married with children so young. When you are ready, laundy will be a pleasure. Well... let's not go that far!
RUN REPORT: I ran one day in the Bahamas. The weather was beautiful and the run was nice. It was only three(fairly slow)miles and then I got a bit lazy because, let's face it, I WAS on vacation. Otherwise, I got plenty of excercise walking on the beach every day and swimming in endless pools. Wonderful vacation, highly recommended. Stay in the Quality Suites, they are half the price of Atlantis and you have use of all the facilities. Well worth the trip and a great place for kids and adults alike.
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Hello there! I found you through my sitemeter, I had no idea you were reading. Thanks for the link. I love your wedding photo, your dress is beautiful, really nice.
C and I still have to work out a healthy division of labor. Despite having lived out of home many times I am severely unhousetrained, especially by French standards. For the moment he is in the traditional wife role, cooking our meals, doing our laundry as well. I really do need to help him more, getting the balance right does seem to take some time (and some skill aquirement!)
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